Yes my journey is solo and My own. Something I am proud of. >I wanted to add more about friendships.  My husband and I have been fortunate to have a large number of friends. Yet, this is not by accident.  We both were social, caring, conscientious friends to people growing up, and thus attracted many friendships. When we came together our circle grew. We as a couple are collectively a fun loving well liked pair with an abundant network.
<">He and I spoke about our similarities.  He mentioned that he was often the organizer, and the central person.  Making sure he made time for friends, meet ups, and organizing get togethers.
“>He said to me, now it sometimes feels like if I don’t initiate I would hardly hear from a lot of those people. He also said how nowadays he is way too exhausted to put in all that effort – and wishes itcould be more organic, to have friends that are in a simple mindset…it does get harder as we get oldeR
“>I realize we are very similar.  I have explained my friendships to you in the past.  I was always “the friend of the year” trying and keeping in touch and making sure everyone was okay.  I did feel like my husband about a year or so ago- thought – wow if i stop trying who is left.  I do see it different now, but that is because I am on the path.  My life is the path.

>But back to him, it gotme thinking – friendships do change – and sometimes it can feel hurtful.  For example we are going to a wedding next weekend – my husband is one of the groomsmen.  This is a close friend of his from medical school.  At our wedding this guy did a speech and everything.  However, over the last year my husband and he drifted apart some.  Now this guy is going to marry a girl who is quite moody.  I’ll go ahead and even say she is uncomfortable around me, because of who I am versus who she is.  I do think she is intimidated to a point – but I am nothing but nice.  IN many wayss she is stuck in the high school ways of thinking.  She has even been outright rude to me in the past at an event.  I know a lot of te reason my husband’s friend isn’t as close to him anymore is because I do know his soon to be wife is threatened by me.  I am not saying this because  I am arrogant or amazing, it is because I simply know, and I have seen enough to be aware of such.
Stuff like this simply happens.  Everyone grows in different ways. And it shows us that friends and people are ever changing. As are we. I myself have let go of many friendships over this year that were not serving my path.

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