Hi Anita,

You’re always here, on hand to bless people with your wisdom 🙂

I’ll actually talk to my son first as I’d rather hear anything from him because obviously I’ll trust absolutely anything he tells me. She’s a good mother and I know my boy is safe – I’ve never ever lost a nights sleep worrying about him.

Today she changed her Whatsapp picture to one of her, my son, and the guy, all smiling happy families and stuff. The thing is, this would have killed me a few years ago and I would have flew off the handle about it. Now it just sort of mildly disappoints me. She knows it’s not something I like because I have said it to her before about me not liking these type of pictures, and I know that they would be on her social media (not that I see, I’m blocked, and I don’t use Facebook anyway) and I can just imagine people commenting how nice of a family they look etc.

I can’t control it, so what I do is just completely detach myself from anything to do with her. I will only ever be doing the absolute bare minimum required to communicate about my boy and no more. I think that, as much as she’d probably like it if I was to be more friendly, open and accepting of her and her live-in partner, i’m not going to give her that for one main reason..

For a very long time she excluded me from being present in my child’s early life, including all the terrible things she done whilst pregnant etc. So, despite things having changed a lot over the years for the better, I’m going to remain as non-existent in her life as possible. You excluded me? Ok, I’ll stay that way, and I’ll be as cold and distant to you as you were to me.

I’m so detached and busy living my life at this point that even if she was to come to me now and tell me I could have parental responsibility and my name on the birth certificate – things I tried hard to get for a long time – I would tell her she can stick them up her a**.

Dan