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We have recently found out that his mom and stepdad is getting a divorce. As for him and I things are going good. He is very level headed and much more understanding and hes showing initiative in our life together which im happy about. But i still have not had the conversation about our break. I dont want to have it too soon and i feel im bringing it up indirectly and showing im not going to tolerate less than i deserve. I dont exactly know how to start that conversation because i know all he will want to do is protect my feelings and not ruin how good things are going between us which is another reason why its difficult to pick a timing because i too dont want to ruin things but how can i let go of my inner distrust towards him, most of the time i forget we even had a break but then i realize that this man is unpredictable and until he feels that he has found himself as a man… there is still a chance he may break my heart in the future. He said many things and gave me many different reasons for needing that break but none of which made sense. And i cant assume i know what was going on in his head… I know he would want to sound like that break was necessary for him and that the reasoning is far bigger than our relationship. He will never own up to a stupid decision driven by stupid emotions… he will try and justify and make it sound like he knows what hes doing. Trying to get a head strong person to confess their wrong doings is like trying to move a mountain. Although i am still positive… it still infuriates me that he is continuing our relationship innocently and has never apologized for the pain he caused me.