Hi Michelle,

Yes your story is similar to mine too. I sacrificed my time for him coz 7 years is not a small period. If he wasn’t there in my life I would have been settled by now. But he left me in a very bad situation so at 39 I sit here and wonder what to do in life. though his parents came up with the age issue he always told me my age doesn’t matter to him coz he loves me too much. Yes I agree with your statement – ‘Genuine love may have been present but respect wasn’t’.

Yes his new so called girl is not his type and I cannot imagine he wants her to be his life partner. By the way she is a Christian and he is a Buddhist. what he told me was ‘All of you will be shocked to see whom I’ve choosed but my family doesn’t care anything as long as she’s younger to me. They don’t care about her religion, her wealth, her looks or anything what only matters is her age so now that I’ve found their requirement I will go ahead to please them, in case someday if something happens to me all of them are responsible. that day I will remind my family that I’m going thru this bcoz I have done wrong to this girl who loved me so much and coz I left her.  So he kind of showed me that he’s purely doing this for his parents. But what I am worried is he found this girl had connections with her and introduced to them. So he should have some liking towards her to even consider right so why all this big drama. this girl is 28 and a well qualified professional unlike me. I feel he can do good in life and his life will be sorted with this girl coz he’s not very stable in life yet. So most probably that also would have been his reason to move out for his own benefits.

He didn’t want to take the risk with me coz if he comes to me. he has to leave his family, we both have to leave our jobs coz we work together, then he’s not very stable in life as me, the age gap…all this would effect our future so he said Good bye to me.

I am glad that you have moved on Michelle and its so sad to learn as how you ex is treating his wife. It shows that he’s not comfortable with her to share any details of her.

I cant imagine how could people fake their marriage and life. Even my ex told me the only justice he can do for me is that he would love only me forever. But I don’t believe those. When they find a  new person and when they live together obviously everything will change and will definitely have a deeper connection with her.

Anyways I’m still trying to get over this mess coz I’m suffering each and every moment. No matter what I still love him and I do miss him.

Risha