Dear Risha:

When I am troubled about a situation, I ask myself: is there anything I need to do? If there is nothing for me to do, then it helps me to know that there is  nothing for me to do, no action to consider taking.

This takes away that need to think and think and think. We think when we think that there is something we need to do.

Is there something you need to do? Recently you thought of doing something, sending him that email. That brought about lots of thinking and enforced your feelings about him, missing him, needing him etc.

You decided not to send that email. Is there anything else you consider doing, any action to take?

anita