Dear Risha:

The thought it is his loss that the relationship ended came to my mind a moment ago, so I thought I’d share it with you, his loss, seems to me. He may realize it himself and look for you, maybe after he gets married. Please do not be “too helpful, too  kind” to him at that point!

I suppose you saw the best in him through the offensive words he used, his ridiculous excuse for using those words (“bcoz he loves me”), and so much more of his unappealing behaviors. Something about him appealed to you. Maybe it was the boy inside him, for in each man there is a lovable boy. Maybe you felt compassion for that boy. It is a shame that the man that he became is way less loving and lovable than the boy inside him.

What was it that appealed to you about him?

anita