Hi John,

I have had two miscarriages, and let me tell you: IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT! Yell it out loud. “IT IS NOT MY FAULT!” Read, rinse and repeat.

Women have been hunting, gathering, herding, working on farms and doing manual labor while pregnant throughout all of human history. What was she doing? Lifting a truck? Did you tell her to lift and carry a tree or something? Because honestly, if she was just lifting a heavy box and this happened… IT WOULD HAVE HAPPENED ANYWAY! It was ready to happen at the next picking up of the laundry basket or young child. Believe it. Please.

The reason why she’s kind of sort of blaming you is because, hands down, she is blaming herself.

And that was ten years ago. This miscarriage is the “blame” for the Issue of Choice: She’s just not feeling it.

Well, I think she is very selfish. Don’t you dare go through or start the divorce proceedings yourself. Let HER do all the work.

Meanwhile, you know what you should do? This would make me look at my husband differently or in a good way:

1. GO TO THE GYM.

2. Come home hot, sweaty, upbeat, and with a smile on your face.

3. Make sure you dab a little cologne on you, wear a gold men’s bracelet, and/or wear snazzier collared shirts every day. But be subtle about it! (Trust me, she’ll notice!) Make her think that You look dam good, you clearly have a song in your heart, WHAT’S GOING ON?

No More Sad Dad,

Inky

• This reply was modified 6 years, 1 month ago by Inky.