Hi Dee,

You’re tired of heartbreaks and want to find Mr. Right. You’ve been seeing a man for a year. You love him but he’s been unemployed the entire time you’ve been with him.

How is he paying his bills? Are you helping him?

If you plan to have children with him, he’ll need to be able to provide for them. If it turns out that he is unable to do so, all of the burden will be on you. Be smart about this. Do not agree to marry him until he has sorted out his professional life.

You are disappointed that a man of 32 years old hasn’t made rational career choices. You ask What more can I do? I don’t think there’s much more you can do other than to trust your instincts.

B