Dear John:

The  easy part for me first: your children, four young  children, they need a safe, peaceful home. You wrote: “I don’t want my  kids to go through life knowing dad as the person who scream at them daily”. I don’t know if this means you have  been screaming at them or that you feel like screaming at them and you are afraid that you will.

The children needs to not be screamed at, not by their father, not by their mother, not by anyone. If to achieve  that you need to move out, get a divorce, make that happen. Whatever it takes.

Second part of my post is asking you what specifically does she wants you to change? “I am expected to change”, change what, is there a list of items she wants you to change?

Third part, in a post elsewhere you wrote that you thought at one point, before you married her, that she was out of your  league. In what way or ways was she out of your league, in your mind?

anita