Hi Anita! Thanks for responding. That particular instance is not me.

Sometimes I feel like a mother in the relationship. We sleep together when he is scared of losing me. Some of the issues are also financial.

I know that we are having issues, being as though I am having thoughts of someone else. It might be “the grass is greener” idea (he might not even be interested in me!), but this man has aspects that I do not see in my own husband. Maybe my needs have changed. Then I think (or am scared) because my husband and I are so compatible. Soul mates if you will (but then why am I having feelings for someone else?? No idea…) The relationship is far from perfect, but I seem to have lost some interest and  do not know what to do about it. Or how to fix it.

I am just having a hard time not saying something to this other man. I just feel like I need to get it off my chest, but I told my husband that I would not “do him wrong”. Telling this man would be highly inappropriate, but I cannot seem to let it go.