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  • #236021
    J.
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    Hi Anita! Thanks for responding. That particular instance is not me.

    Sometimes I feel like a mother in the relationship. We sleep together when he is scared of losing me. Some of the issues are also financial.

    I know that we are having issues, being as though I am having thoughts of someone else. It might be “the grass is greener” idea (he might not even be interested in me!), but this man has aspects that I do not see in my own husband. Maybe my needs have changed. Then I think (or am scared) because my husband and I are so compatible. Soul mates if you will (but then why am I having feelings for someone else?? No idea…) The relationship is far from perfect, but I seem to have lost some interest and  do not know what to do about it. Or how to fix it.

    I am just having a hard time not saying something to this other man. I just feel like I need to get it off my chest, but I told my husband that I would not “do him wrong”. Telling this man would be highly inappropriate, but I cannot seem to let it go.

    #200951
    J.
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    Thank you for reaching out.

    I lost touch with a special person in my life from about twenty years ago. She reentered my life less than ten years ago, but then passed away from cancer.

    Recently, I also had an ex contact me from that same time period in my life (twenty years ago). His contact triggered feelings of grief for my soul sister. They knew each other, but he did not know she passed away because they did not travel in the same social circles. They knew each other through me.

    Could it maybe just be about closure?

    How do I let it go? My senses tell me that traveling down any communicative path with him is not in my best interest. My thoughts about the situation are slightly obsessive. I think it is just because I miss my friend so much.

    #200949
    J.
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    Thank you for reaching out.

    I lost touch with a special person in my life from about twenty years ago. She reentered my life less than ten years ago, but then passed away from cancer.

    Recently, I also had an ex contact me from that same time period in my life (twenty years ago). His contact triggered feelings of grief for my soul sister. They knew each other, but he did not know she passed away because they did not travel in the same social circles. They knew each other through me.

    Could it maybe just be about closure?

    How do I let it go? My senses tell me that traveling down any communicative path with him is not in my best interest. My thoughts about the situation are slightly obsessive. I think it is just because I miss my friend so much.

    #200947
    J.
    Participant

    Thank you for reaching out.

    I lost touch with a special person in my life from about twenty years ago. She reentered my life less than ten years ago, but then passed away from cancer.

    Recently, I also had an ex contact me from that same time period in my life (twenty years ago). His contact triggered feelings of grief for my soul sister. They knew each other, but he did not know she passed away because they did not travel in the same social circles. They knew each other through me.

    Could it maybe just be about closure?

    How do I let it go? My senses tell me that traveling down any communicative path with him is not in my best interest. My thoughts about the situation are slightly obsessive. I think it is just because I miss my friend so much.

    #200945
    J.
    Participant

    Thank you for reaching out.

    I lost touch with a special person in my life from about twenty years ago. She reentered my life less than ten years ago, but then passed away from cancer.

    Recently, I also had an ex contact me from that same time period in my life (twenty years ago). His contact triggered feelings of grief for my soul sister. They knew each other, but he did not know she passed away because they did not travel in the same social circles. They knew each other through me.

    Could it maybe just be about closure?

    How do I let it go? My senses tell me that traveling down any communicative path with him is not in my best interest. My thoughts about the situation are slightly obsessive. I think it is just because I miss my friend so much.

    #76722
    J.
    Participant

    Thank you for your advice, Anita! I am not comfortable with confrontation. This is why I have let it go on for so long with my brother. I see what you are saying by saying to take care of yourself & being true without causing harm to another. They are helpful words to consider. Thank you!

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