I think Anita is reeeaaally onto something with your ex’s son. You clearly did see him as competition, even though you may not have meant to, but subconsciously, he was taking some of the attention that you desired. I know the struggle, though. It’s hard when you feel such a magnetic pull to be around someone and you can’t be with them as much as you want to. Anything that gets in the way of that becomes a source of frustration/anxiety/sadness. She was right to put her son first, and I think deep-down you probably knew that, but that magnetic pull can cloud judgment and cause selfishness. I made some bad calls in my relationship due to that too. There were times when I was selfish in ways I normally wouldn’t be, and I had a lot of regrets after the breakup once I realized what I’d been doing. So, again, that’s another lesson to learn.  Don’t feel guilty over doing that if you agree that that’s the case, because you can’t change the past either way, it’s just something to pay close attention to if you have a similar experience in the future. Learning from the experience can clear the regret/guilt if you let it, because it served a purpose overall.

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