Shelby,

Yes I do hope that therapy will shed some new light on what I need to do. Although I am trying to focus this purely on the trauma as this is what is affecting me the most, I think maybe further in the process we can go on to discuss the man who caused all this in the first place!

Perhaps we have a complete lack of understanding not only towards our exes but also towards ourselves! The same way we question why they are the way they are and why they cannot change, the same questions are applicable to us! Why do we want these things so bad? Why can’t we just be with them the way they want to be with us?! Why are we not able to compromise or sacrifice any of it to be with them the same way we expect them to do for us? A bit of a change of perspective. I suppose at the end of the day we as human beings want what we want and that cannot be changed?

We have most definitely both fallen under the category of lack of self love/worth. But we are doing our best for today and that’s all that matters!