Dear John:

Did you notice Kkasxo’s valuable input, it’s her first post in your thread, read it if you missed it somehow, will you?

I think that the reason why your attachment  is with your ex and not with your current girlfriend is the same reason why a child who lost his mother longs for her and her only. Our attachment to your main care taker, usually it is the mother, and  is specific to  that one person. It so happens your ex became  that one person, in your mind, for a while  now, a year and a  half or so… how long  has she been The One, for you?

anita