Dear anita,

maybe he didn’t know what to say. In the past I also got very concerned about my health issues and always told him about that, like about the lip herpes. Maybe it comes off as strange. Or I also worry, that he might think that I want to avoid physical contact with him? Then I worry that he might think that I’m only interested in sex or something. Maybe he just finds me and my behaviour very odd. Why do I always get sick lately? Usually I’m not sick that often… It makes things more complicated. I would like to just meet him and talk to him.

Herpes zoster is very infectious, but I don’t have open wounds, so it should be okay to just meet and talk, I think. But I wouldn’t feel comfortable hugging him or kissing him or even shaking his hand. After I left the hospital two years ago, I asked a nurse if I could infect others (I wasn’t completely healed at that point and my eyesight hadn’t gotten back to normal yet). She said I should better not kiss someone. So I wanted to let him know what to expect when we meet and so I wrote to him that we better be careful and better not shake hands.

I know that I worry too much. More than what a normal person would do. To others it might come off as very weird 🙁