Hi jo.
Sorry that you feel trapped. For us humans, it seems scarier to go into the unknown more than stay with the known even if the known is not health or abusive or just plain bad for us.
I don’t think there is any magic formula for overcoming our fears to leave the known (even if we do know on a conscious level that it IS bad for us) and leap into the unknown of being on your own.
I recommend journalling on your feelings and reflecting on this relationship.
Posting about this is the first step. Read what you wrote here. What would you say or think if a good friend wrote what you posted here? The title says it all doesn’t it?
Mark
Though I run this site, it is not mine. It's ours. It's not about me. It's about us. Your stories and your wisdom are just as meaningful as mine. 