Hi John,

Perhaps I can’t give you the best advice but I can tell you that if two people want it enough, it can work. But it must be two sided. Sometimes when we loose ourselves it is our human instinct to want out – perhaps this is what happened to your wife. She feels that she does need to go and find herself all over again and maybe right now this means not being with you however if she truly loves you she’ll soon realise that finding herself doesn’t mean she has to go on without the person that she loves, you.

My ex is currently trying to reconcile with me. After a traumatic event and major hurt over the last few months my heart very much still wants him and for that reason alone I am somewhat choosing to believe that perhaps if we work at it enough it will work. It is not to say that it actually will, but the want is there and I am hoping that is enough to get us through the storm. Love is a very powerful thing and I can honestly say if I didn’t love him I wouldn’t even be considering a reconciliation, not after everything that has happened! But it gives us hope for better days..

Wishing you all of the best on this journey!