Airene,
Thank you for your kind words. I definitely want to continue our friendship, I am just at a loss because we have to continue living together.

George,
You are very right. Sexuality aside, he was always oscillating between what he wanted with me, which gave me constant anxiety. Now he’s finally decided what he wants: friendship. It’s just tough waters to navigate.

Anita,
Well for 3 months (last January, February, March) we were having big arguments more than twice a week, and petty fights just about every day. The intense arguing consisted of me communicating something, him taking it the wrong way, and the conversations spiraling wildly out of control. He’d threaten to leave, I would too. I would be crying and it would not bother him one bit. The arguing was slammed doors, silent treatment, manipulation, and awful communication. I was toxic in the sense that I used sex to control the relationship. As in, if he was being out of hand, I would rescind any intimate contact. He would do the same, but with affection and stability. The arguments were never physical, but they escalated out of control. I always felt powerless and trapped. The petty fights were rude comments, jabs, and anything to rile each other up. No boundaries whatsoever. However, after couple’s therapy we worked through all of that and now we are nothing like that. But I understand that the past is imperative to understanding a complicated relationship.