Dear  Clover:

You are very welcome. I feel good about you trusting me with your personal feelings,  feeling “very safe emotionally”. I will continue to be this safe  place for you best I can.

Interesting, you expressed living in a society/ country where there are lots of rude and aggressive people. I was  born into one myself. It was such a nice change to move to a new country where  people in public were nice, polite, considerate, welcoming, what  a  change!

I learned though that aggression is everywhere, maybe less in public, more in private,  but it is  common in homes everywhere. Yet, it  is nice to get a break in public.

Another thing, even when people are nice, a person already sensitive to criticism will be greatly affected by what appears  to be slight or unintended offense or disregard. For a person already harmed by aggression, any little thing triggers the hurt, such as someone  forgetting your name, or not answering your question and talking  to someone else instead.

What  about your father hitting you.. still?

anita