I disagree with telling her.

I feel that you are seeking revenge and approaching this from an unhealthy, selfish mindset. Leave this in the past and work on yourself instead. You were both willing participants in terms of having an affair, so making him the sole bad guy, and unnecessarily hurting her in the process, does not sit well with me.

“It’s really not fair that he hurt me, left me, then stayed with her, and she has no idea what he’s been doing.”

This is what an affair is. As mentioned, you both willingly participated in it.

I apologize for being harsh.

• This reply was modified 6 years ago by Michelle.