Victoria,

It is so nice to hear from you! Me & Shelby were wondering about you! I assumed that the reconciliation with your ex went well as you haven’t been around for a little while. I am glad to hear that you have decided to give things another go..

Having read your last post it is incredible how much I can relate except I am somewhat in a similar position to your ex rather than yourself so perhaps I can give you some input from the receiving end.

So just to give you a brief update, thankfully I have managed to start my counselling now! I am due to have my second appointment today – nerve wrecking to say the least!

My ex is still adamant he wants to reconcile. We have spent a significant amount of time together in the last few weeks and had several very raw and emotional conversations about all the hurt caused. Nonetheless, he still wants me. Now I wouldn’t say his family hate me but lets just say they are not exactly pleased that I am somewhat back in his life. I have also found that his friends are somewhat disappointed because he’d no longer be the single guy that they can go partying with etc! I too did say to him if you want this to work you are to let everyone know that we are actively working on things, or ‘official’ as you say. I can honestly say this to me is just a way of feeling some kind of security again. It is just him standing his ground saying this is my life, my woman, whatever opinions you guys may have please keep them to yourself and respect the fact that WE are giving things another go.. That makes me feel good as his potential partner because for the first time ever he is standing up for our relationship and fighting for me..

I understand your point about this puts you under unnecessary pressure and maybe quite stressful for you however I just thought I’d shed some light from the receiving end.

I do have some reservations towards my ex.. the way he withdrew and left last time has left a major scar. In a sense I am waiting for him to do this again maybe? So perhaps being upfront and honest with everyone about his intention to reconcile with me gives me hope that he won’t? I don’t know.. Not quite sure.

Nonetheless, I hope everything works out all the best for you! Please keep us updated on your progress 🙂