Hi Eliana,

Thank you for your reply. Yes, him being unkind was a big problem for me. Following our breakup, he has shortened his rent lease. He said that he did that so we can buy a place together and that he now wants to talk about all of the things that I wanted to discuss before. Prior to our breakup, any mention of these things was a very negative experience. So I find it a bit overwhelming that he wants to change these things so suddenly.

In regards to sex, it was selfish in the sense that it would be quick. He would finish and he wouldn’t take care of me in the same way. Which I found very frustrating. He also mentions that he was aware of this and wants to change it.

throughout this process, he said he has spoken to many people and has reflected on how selfish he’s been. He said he spoke to his family and they said he’s always had an issue of treating those who loved him most poorly because he just assumed that they’d always be there. Now he is saying that he’s ready to devote his life to me and making me happy.