Hi Cranberry (I love your name by the way :-))

I’ve been in similar situations before, and one thing I’ve learned from some hard experiences is that if you have doubts or or thinking too much about a guy, something is way off. I think it’s VERY important that you wrote that sometimes you don’t trust him and that you’re seeing red flags at the beginning of your paragraph. I think you know that this is not a good situation to be in and that he’s not giving you the respectful and kind treatment that you deserve. It is always best to listen to your own intuition. The question is, why are you choosing to downplay bad behavior? I know it’s difficult, but from what you’ve written I do think it’s smart to step back from him. The best way, I think to do that, is to focus on you. Aside from this guy, are you happy with the other areas of your life? You’re in college- are you happy with what you’re studying, and your friend circle? What are you planning to do after college? Is it something you’re excited about? If not, maybe try to think of things (besides this guy) that you look forward to doing. And I promise, you will no longer about him this much once you do that. I feel (and also have experienced personally) that when we’re not fulfilled in other areas of life, that dissatisfaction shows up in our romantic relationships as well.

In any case, this guy doesn’t sound like good news. You should probably move on. And being in college, your pool is large, so take heart that the right guy is there for you.