So, I’ve begun dating someone recently. He is very cute and affectionate and ambitious. But at times I feel like I don’t necessarily trust him. When we started talking and getting to know eachother he has shown red flags by going mia often, such as not responding to messages till the next day and he has flaked on me about two times. But i forgave him and we still were seeing eachother. One day I told him I didn’t wanna do anything physical with him anymore if there was no commitment involved. So he said, “were together”. When I tell people that they give me the side eye and ask me if that was the only reason he agreed to officially date.

I like him but i guess it does raise a lot of questions that I have. I have already expressed that I sometimes feel unsure about whether or not he actually likes me and he told me that he does and that if anything I can talk to him about stuff but sometimes I get afraid to. He’s said that he doesn’t wanna feel like he has to constantly battle against my doubt when he doesn’t do anything for me to doubt him in the first place. (i’ve told em that i felt unsure about his feelings for me multiple times unfortunately) He still takes long to answer my texts sometimes and I’ll see him on social media instead of responding to me. And I dont have a car but I came back home from college which is like a 40 min drive and when I told him I was back all he said was “lit!” And for some reason that made me feel kinda sad. I feel like if a guy has just asked a girl to be with him and shes finally in town that he would want to see her as much as he could. He did just get out of work when I told him but I have a friend who told me once he was done with finals the first thing he wanted to do was to see his girl :/ Then today he tweeted something along the lines of, “alot of these girls dont even have cars :/” and it kinda hurt my feelings and I think part of it was due to the fact he tweeted that when I had sent him a message hours previous and he hadn’t responded to it AND I am one of those girls who dont own one so why would he tweet that? Another thing was I saw him comment on a girls picture, “hi ily” and I didn’t know if he was publicly flirting or that was a friend but yea.. I dont wanna seem like a crazy gf and ask him who she was especially since we recently just got out of an argument.

I am just wondering what everyone would advise if they were in my shoes? Like how should I navigate this?