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January 26, 2019 at 8:56 am #277031
cranberryParticipanthow do you think i should go bout it?
January 26, 2019 at 8:55 am #277029cranberryParticipantYes, but at this point we haven’t spoken for over a week. I actually think he may be over me. Im afraid to reach out. i dont know how to or if I even should. I thought if he wanted to make it work that he would not have suggested we break up in the first place so after I said “okay” I did not get back to him.
January 26, 2019 at 8:08 am #277025cranberryParticipantokay and if it was what should i do
January 26, 2019 at 7:45 am #277017cranberryParticipantwhen he was upset I honestly don’t believe it had anything at all to do with the fight that happened a while back. And sure he prob wasn’t glad to be with me. Also yea I was being dishonest wen I said okay
January 25, 2019 at 12:58 pm #276947cranberryParticipantYea, I know I guess I was just glad we were back to normal. But we haven’t spoken in over a week now and I don’t think there is anything I could do at this point
January 25, 2019 at 12:36 pm #276937cranberryParticipantit was because i brought up an old issue we had though it has been already discussed. So yea, i do think he had a valid reason to feel that way.
January 25, 2019 at 11:44 am #276919cranberryParticipantit was my retaliation to him calling me annoying
November 22, 2018 at 10:46 am #240347cranberryParticipanthis words seemed genuine to me, but I could be wrong. Also he was the person who initiated the “what are we?” discussion. Why would he do that and then have this change in effort?
November 26, 2017 at 11:35 pm #179527cranberryParticipanti am trying so hard to be positive but i am so hurt, why doesn’t he love me anymore? I just want to ask him why hes doing this. I feel so pathetic and down on myself. I feel so lost and stupid and i feel so bitter. i have this feeling that love is fake and i just wanna feel empowered and grow and make progress in life but this break up has effected me tremendously. i cry about it so often and i wish i had some sort of peace of mind.
November 26, 2017 at 8:43 pm #179519cranberryParticipantI meant to say that I think the pay for recreational therapy is low
September 20, 2017 at 6:28 am #169459cranberryParticipantHi guys thanks so much for replying. Its very sweet to know that even though we are strangers you guys are willing to take time out of your day to give me advice and words of encouragement!!
So, I’ve joined some clubs, the Korean culture club, the Caribbean association club and best buddies!! I’ve found some people from my old school and made some connections. I don’t have any strong friend connections but it’ll happen eventually. I just need to push myself out of my comfort zone a bit. As for my major, im still on edge on what I want to do, I honestly hate all my classes at the moment. But there is this workshop for people to explore career paths and majors so I think im going to do that.
I started getting counseling on my insecurity issues and other things. I reached out to my ex because I thought if I told him I was making self improvements that he would consider dating again. We had small talk and catched up a bit but then my anxiety was going through the roof and I asked him if he think we could ever date again. He told me that he wasn’t totally against the idea but he didn’t want to give me false hope. I didn’t know how to feel about that or what to say so I just didn’t answer. My heart is still very broken and idk what to do… I know I have to stop looking at his social media but whenever I do hes following tons of new girls even ones we’ve had arguments over so it hurts. any advice?
Thanks again!!
August 18, 2017 at 11:31 am #164604cranberryParticipantHi Rideeta,
I’m so sorry this is happening to you. I am going through a very similar situation, my first boyfriend and I have broken up and it has been the most painful experience of my life. Just know that you aren’t alone and everyone has gone through at least one major heartbreak within their lifetime. I know it’s hard, I think of him all the time and even though hes told me he doesn’t love me anymore I still get thoughts of hope. But I’ve learned to realize that those thoughts don’t help me. I try to rewire how I think. I tell myself he isn’t coming back and that I’m still going to be okay. I decided to be my friend because no one can truly be there for you like you can. Throwing away the things we shared/gifts we exchanged, staying off social media and surrounding myself with the love of my friends and family has helped a lot.
This may seem drastic but if seeing him hurts as much as you say it does maybe you can switch classes? You are doing great so far by trying to keep busy and not contacting him. You are a strong individual and you can get through this. Also you don’t have to feel ashamed or embarrassed to speak to your therapist, it is their job to help and you are a human experiencing a loss.
Treat yourself, love yourself, find things that excite you and inspire you. Figure out what is it that you want from life other than the love of another person and make it your goal to achieve it!! When the time is right someone who is meant for you will come into your life but in the mean time continue to love yourself. This heartbreak is just one of many life lessons.
Good luck and don’t give up <3 We can get through this!!
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