Dear  Lisa:

Yes, I suppose you are correct, there are “some situations where there is no more to see and  seeing a situation correctly”. Sometimes I get caught in the all-or-nothing thinking.

Thank you for the empathy.

What I learned following a very damaging childhood is that when you enter adult  life, with no healing from that damage, is that  as an adult, I came across people who  took advantage  of my lack  of mental  health, using me  because it was possible. And people who didn’t  use me, most if not all (for most  of  my  life), didn’t  want  to have anything to do  with me, not wanting to bother with someone who was  unwell.

And so, my adulthood experiences were not good, nothing that could  help me heal from said damage.

It took so long, decades, before someone thought  of me  as a person of value, beyond the value of using/ taking advantage of  me. It  took decades before anyone decent wanted to  get involved with me, being as  unwell as I was.

Basically, coming  out  of a damaging  childhood, what is open to a person  is … further deterioration. It is a tragic reality. Seems like  it  takes a  miracle.

Regarding your last two lines of your recent post: you come  across clearly to me,  I believe. Add anything you want, if you want  to come  across more clearly though. Your thoughts and feelings are welcomed here, by me.

anita