I don’t think I would be okay with a boyfriend having ANY friend that is a girl stay over. I feel like that is crossing a boundary that should not be crossed. It’s one thing for them to meet up for lunch or dinner, but staying over is putting them in a situation of temptation and that is just asking for trouble. I don’t blame you for being upset! And I think your boyfriend should respect that this bothers you and shouldn’t be done out of respect for you and your relationship. Why put himself in a position of temptation, whether he is trustworthy or not?

I also have to wonder if your boyfriend would be equally okay with you having an ex-boyfriend stay the night at your house… just as friends.

As far as ex’s staying friends… I’ve had my own ex’s help me out quite a lot, and I’m still really good friends with some of them, but we’ve been ex’s for 10-15 years, so they really are just really good friends at this point. So I think I’d be okay with my guy being friends with his ex’s from that standpoint, especially if the girl doesn’t really have a lot of guy friends to help her out with the bit stuff. They’ve also slept on my couch before but NEVER when either one of us were dating someone else. No guys (other than my boyfriend), ex or not, stay at my house when I’m dating someone, and I would expect the same from my man. I think your guy might be expecting a little toooooo much from you with this one, but that’s just my opinion.