Dear Bella:

It  sure is  nice to  have power. Did I mention that because we are  outside city limit and  have a well, we don’t have  running  water  when out  of power? Nice to have running and hot water!

He managed  to get  a mortgage  with bad  credit, bad  credit that  you saw  with your own eyes shortly before he  left, and he  used his bad credit, not  his  now-wife’s credit… this doesn’t  compute for me, not  that I am a financial  person, far from it, but this is  basics.

You wrote,  “it wouldn’t  bother me so bad except  he always said he couldn’t  get a loan.. I had  to co-sign for his car… It  seems like  he  met  her  and gave her everything in 3 months that I always  wanted  the  two of us to  have”-

these things wouldn’t bother  you if the credit issue was  clear, made  sense. It doesn’t  make sense that “he gave her everything” when his  credit was  so bad, and  you saw it  yourself, his bad credit, with your own eyes.

This lack of logic is disturbing me.

“I will eventually be able to put this behind me if it  doesn’t kill me first”- I do hope that you put it behind you somehow, because something  will kill you eventually, true to  us all. Better leave misery behind best  we can.

anita