Dear Cali Chica:

I will point out just one thing, a way to look at it that you may not have considered, and I am suggesting a way  that is  true to reality, of course.

You see your mother as the victimizer and you-and-your-sister as two victims. You want to help her, the other victim. You think she was harmed more, you were harmed less, so you can help her.

She sees her mother and you as her victimizers, she sees her and you as having been abusive to her.

See the difference?

anita