Dear Anita,

you wrote “your sister believes that you sometimes abuse her”

I see.  In a way I understand as well.  I have often been such a strong domineering personality.  I have put her down many times in my life, making it known I resented her, or that she burdened me with her problems or inadequacies.  I know this has not been easy for her.  This combined with my mother she felt like the black sheep.  That cali chica could do no harm, yet she was incapable and never good enough.  I of course never instilled that in her (my mother did) but I can’t say I did not contribute to it, when I was always “hard on her”