Dear Jenni:

I understand then that the relationship consisted of “talking on and off for about a year”, including seeing each other “about 3-4 times during weekend trips etc”. There was a lot  of talking, that he hinted to you that he  felt in love with you, that you felt a lot for him, but there was never a discussion between the two of you about the two of you being a girlfriend and boyfriend, and about there  being an exclusive gf/bf between the two of you.

When you found  out that “he started talking to someone else”, you were “heartbroken, because I had trusted  him”-

You mean that he  told you before that he will not be  talking  to someone else, you trusted  that  he will not and then he betrayed your trust by talking to someone else?

* I wonder if the communication between the two of you had gaps where assumptions, guessing and wishful thinking on your part filled in those gaps, and if he helped you fill in those gaps by hinting but not stating anything. If this is the case, and you would like, can you give me an example  of him hinting?

anita