Hi a guy I was talking to on and off for a year really messed me up.

It was a long distance thing and we had been talking on and off for about a year.  When we were “on”, we would speak for hours on the phone each night, and facetime whenever. I knew his entire life story and he was the first person I was ever able to have intimate conversations/share my feelings and opinions with. For me, it was the closest thing I had ever had to a real relationship, whereas he had constantly jumped from relationship to relationship since he was a teenager. He had throughout the year hinted that he was in love with me, and I definitely had similar feelings but we were never in a relationship per say.

Over the course of a month, I noticed every weekend I wouldn’t really hear from him and eventually he told me it was because he started talking to someone else. I was heartbroken, because I had trusted him and believed he was a better person than that. He promptly blocked me on social media and was happily moving on with this new girl. He even went on a vacation with her a week after he stopped talking to me.

I was moving on and coming to terms with everything, when 2 weeks later he calls me a few days before Christmas. He apologized for what happened and how he hurt me and said he wanted me back. I started talking to him but told him that I could not move past what happened. Things ended really badly before with me saying some hurtful things and I wanted to end things on a better note and not have that negative energy out there. So I started talking to him again, maybe for my own feelings of loneliness too.

First few days of him talking to me again, were all about what can I do to get you back, and him texting me etc. Then on Christmas day I said we shouldn’t be talking anymore but that we can pause the convo for now, and discuss this later, since it was Christmas. I never got to discuss it later. The next 3 days we spoke sporadically and he was so difficult to get in touch with. Then one day i was fed up and called him- I never ever called him, he was always the one to call me.  I called him again, after no response. Finally I began to get worried, because this was so unlike him. I sent a txt asking if he was okay. No response. hours went by and finally i messaged him on social media saying I am worried, tell me if you are ignoring me or something is wrong. Nothing.  An hour later I see he posted on social media, although he blocked me from seeing, a picture of him out with a girl. I was livid. I then facteimed him and he must’ve been surprised because he rejected the call. Then I knew he had actually ignored me all day and I had genuinely worried over him for no reason.  I sent him a few texts saying F-off, to which I believed he blocked my number after.

I have not heard from him since, and he has happily moved on with this new girl, and is spending all his time with her. I’ve been creeping on social media and they are all over each other, in the most disgusting ways.

I have never had someone treat me like this, and I don’t know how to cope. I truly trusted him, and although he lied before, I never though he could hurt me like this. He had never ever ignored me before and I just don’t know how to feel better about this all.