Mark, Anita, , Inky – thank you all so much for taking the time to reply. Mark, my first love was 24 years ago. I was attracted to his ruddy complexion, boyish good looks and sweet and funny nature. He felt safe to me.  I knew him as we both resided at the same college. On reflection, my gut was telling me at the time that I was second choice for him and I was very surprised when he made a move on me as I was just ending my relationship with another. Thank you for encouraging me to look at this. I see parallels!!

Anita, thank you for the warm welcome! I feel this may be the new adding to the old which is why I am pulling away hard right now. As if the picture I saw was a reminder to my psyche to exercise caution. The original guy was emotionally immature. Not sure about this man. I think he is very burned, that is for sure.

Inky, I love your response. Just beautiful, thank you.

This has given me plenty to muse over. I truly am grateful as each of you have provided a different take and they could not be more perfect. Team Buddah ? xx