Dear Anita,

I think my mother did not like me and my father because we have week personalities and we are too sensitive. I have a younger brother, and my mother always loved him, he is more like her. When children we used to fight a lot, but now I think he is the closest person in my family I have.

I remember that when being a child, my mother did not like anything I did or say, sometimes she got physical with her anger and maybe that is why I was so afraid to be alone with her. Some other times she just stopped talking to m, or just threaten us with abandon us, but she never did it. I think she blamed me to exist, because If I was not there, maybe she could have just leave my father, she was clearly not happy, she said many times that when she lived with her parents she had money and was happy, and after being married she lost everything.

Now she acts very different with me, when I visit them, she makes every effort for me to like her. It is not like I am rude, but I quietly isolate myself. I can still see how she is rude and verbally abusive with my father, and I just want to leave because I do not want to see that.

Regarding relationships, I just wanted someone to feel cared and I would do the same for that other person. I would never be bad or abusive.

Kay