Dear Cali Chica:

When so tired as you are, think of the basics: there is  this one person, Cali Chica, in legal and somewhat  practical partnership with  this man, your husband. Both are working to save lives, witnessing people dying every day, knowing this will also happen to you. There will be no more you; When and How you don’t  know.

Between now and then, why not make life as simple as possible.

Why not eliminate  loyalties based  on genetics and base  loyalty instead,  on  win-win partnerships. Why not exit  old familial roles and  choose as  if you were a free  agent-

why not be a free agent.

anita

* after submitting the  above I read your second recent post.