MG,
Help you decide what to do? You and him have no idea what you can do further? He wants to do everything as before he got married? What was that? Having sex?
He made his decision. You said you don’t want to “be with him” which I assume that you no longer want sex with him?
You don’t want to hurt him? He is a grown ass man who made his decision. Are you really afraid of him getting angry at you and become difficult at work and making your work life miserable?
You can decide for yourself based on what is good for you, not based on fear – whether fear of “hurting” him or fear of him being angry or difficult with you.
He made a vow, a legal and moral one in front of the family and community and with his wife. Time to move on.
Mark
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