Hi Michelle,

I think I just want him in my life so much that i’m finding it hard to say no to him. He hasn’t fully closed the door and he didn’t tell me in words that he doesn’t want me in his life, he just keeps saying he needs to figure it out and he doesn’t know and he needs to have his life in order first. This makes it so much harder for me since I know he’s still there for me, but I don’t want to be strung along. So it is hard for me to accept and actually take action in the fact that I need to close this door even though I want to be with him.

I ignored the last three texts from him, the last one from being being that he was off dating sites. It’s been three weeks since i’ve heard from him which makes me realize he doesn’t want to be with me. I am leaning towards asking him WHY he chose to tell me that he was off dating sites. the reasons i can come up with for answers include a) looking for validation b) connection c) updates me on his progress. I’m afraid to open the door or send a message again because I still want him in my life.