Dear Reggi:

Your worry is not without any basis in reality, they did have a relationship, intimate relationship and his parents approve of her, think highly of her and are vocal about it, which is unkind of them to do, by the way, to voice to a current girlfriend of their son how much they like the ex girlfriend.

Why not have a conversation: you, your boyfriend and his ex girlfriend/ current friend?

If your relationship with your boyfriend is to continue and his ex girlfriend is to continue to be his friend and his family’s friend, it is appropriate for you to talk to her and him, together (the three of you), about your concerns and listen to what they say, listen intently, pay attention.

It will be difficult for you to suggest such a conversation, or a series of conversations, but I think it is necessary. And I don’t see a reasonable reason for the three of you to not talk, other than the discomfort about it, it being scary. What do you think?

anita