Reggi,

There is no mention of your boyfriend cheating on you.  This is your anxiety and insecurity.

You and your boyfriend are in this intimate relationship together for almost two years now.  If you two cannot talk about such things then your relationship is not very close, trusting and accepting.

Our own thinking about the world and ourselves is our own worst enemy.

Good that you are following anita’s advice in talking about your concerns with both your bf and his ex.  I caution you to use the “I” word.  Own your anxiety and insecurity with them.  What kind of reassurance can they provide you?  It’s good to know before you enter into this conversation.  Yes listen to them and come with behavior specific requests.

Make sense?

Mark