Dear Jacko:

Best to attend psychotherapy with your mother, having family therapy sessions instead of individual therapy sessions. A good therapist will teach your mother to no longer yell at you, never yell at you again and never talk or behave aggressively toward you.

She has to understand this Rule No 1- no yelling, no aggressive behavior toward you whatsoever.

Then the rest of the teaching comes in- how the two of you can communicate effectively, how to solve problems effectively, how to be assertive but not aggressive and how to treat each other respectfully.

anita