Hi MtnsAreCalling,

The above insight is spot on with the emotional bank account. Sometimes we are bewildered though because let’s say we yell at someone and then suddenly they’re done despite what a great person we were to them. So we never quite know our “balance”.

I will say this: When a woman is done, she’s done. She doesn’t need a bitter friend or therapist to convince her of that. She is a grown woman who is done.

I notice you said “We” a lot in your comments. You don’t speak for your wife anymore. She also may not agree with you on some of your points. (She may be dating someone and wears fashionable clothes when she goes out now, who knows?)

What I would do is stop trying to convince her of anything and quietly keep showing up.

Best,

Inky