Dear Anita,

I wanted to comment on your last post from Friday. I thought about number 2 a lot, and realized I never mentioned it to you.

you wrote:

.. by not attacking him, by providing him with safety in the relationship with him. This will decrease the statistical chances that he will get sick or will suffer accidents, get disabled or lose his life altogether as a result of elevated anxiety-

My husband, in the beginning of when he first started feeling really overwhelmed, anxious, etc from my and my family’s treatment of him – used to mention this.  He used to say that he’s worried about getting into an accident, or making an error at work, because he can’t think straight or sleep.

How terrible Anita.  How terrible ESPECIALLY because this is for NO reason.  No true reason.  No real reason except cruelty and poor treatment of another.  Not because there was a death in the family, not because he has a physical reason to feel this way.  Just terrible.

There is no excuse for this, absolutely none.

Life is too precious to waste on insanity and dysfunction.