Well basically we were just messing around, and lately shes been bitter and just creating problems. And she basically meant that she doesnt think that I love her, and then she listed a whole bunch of things I do that shows her that I don’t love her, just gaslighting me. And Im just guilty, but at the same time I know that I’m not in the wrong.  And thats the wake up call, that shes an emotional abuser, maybe not as servere as others, but she definetly is