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Everyone has a purpose in life and sometimes it takes some people time to find where their talents are. But everyone has talents and is in this world for a reason. People are here to help better understand themselves and uplift others through their life’s experiences. The talent and characteristics that you see in another person is a reflection of the trait within yourself. People allow us to better understand ourselves and people are mirrors of each other. If you see something in others, it is likely that trait is within you as well because you would not be able to see the trait in others if you were not aware of it yourself. So the beauty that you see in others is within ourselves, but it can be hard to be aware of it because people are their own worst critics. It is often easier to reflect the light of others rather than seeing the candle within ourselves. People can see the qualities of others quite clearly because we are all reflections of each other and many people are mirrors that reflect the light of others even though they have the light within themselves as well. The society is founded on the diversity of each individual which brings their own ideas to form a collective society. You are a special person and your diversity helps the framework of society. You are an individual born in society and you have ideas that help expand the society’s horizons. Each individual in society contributes an idea to the whole. No one has the same talents and that’s a good thing because with each individual’s diversity the society is a multitude of beautiful souls. If everyone was the same, we wouldn’t have much of a society because it would be boring to have everyone be the same and society would be stagnant with the same ideas. It is through the different talents of individuals that make society diverse and a beautiful place that can change and improve. You may think that you don’t have good talents, but each individual has a contribution to society and your diversity is what makes you unique. You are here for a reason and while you may not be sure of your purpose, you still provide other people a sense of self. When people look at others, they better understand themselves. So even though you may think you have no talents, you give others a sense of who they are because others can see you and get a better understanding of who they are and when they improve because you helped them, you both help society as a whole. So don’t think you don’t have talents because there are many talents in the world. Howard Gardner says people have 9 different intelligences. Some people may be Logical-Mathematical and linguistic-verbal which are traditional academic skills of mathematical reasoning and writing. But others may be Bodily-Kinesthethic which means they learn by doing things or are athletic. Still others may be spatial-visual and great at creating maps and visualizing things. Some people may be musical and do well with art and music. Others may be intrapersonal and good at understanding themselves. And others may be good at being interpersonal or communicating with others. Still others may be naturalistic and good at exploring nature, being creative and analytical and have science skills. And some may have existential intelligence where they are very self-aware and are good at living life. There are many levels of talents and intelligences and the diversity of each individual makes society unique. Everyone has different talents and intelligence is how well a person adapts to their environment and solves problems. People have different ways of adapting to their environment and solving problems and as long as you are improving and living well in society and can adapt to new problems and the environment you are intelligent. The world has different people with different talents and not everyone is like the other, but we are all special in our own way. The talents that a person you admire has is already within you, but you aren’t aware of it. In order for you to see the light of others, your mind needs to acknowledge that there is a light in the world and that it exists in people. Since your mind has acknowledged that there is a light in others and it’s your mind that means that you know there’s light in the world and that it resides in everyone including you. You may be more aware of it in others than in you, but that doesn’t mean you don’t have the light within you. In order for your mind to have created the light that you see in another person, you must have seen the light within your self and acknowledged that there is light in people and then you reflected it out to others. Since people are their own worst critics, it is often hard for them to be aware that their mind knows that they have the light that they see in others, but it’s there.
Don’t let the doubts bring you down. You are not what your flaws tell you are, but what you create yourself to be. The flaws that you have are only a page in your book of life while you are the one writing your life’s story. Others do not hold the map of your life because they aren’t walking the roads of your life’s experiences. You are the person who creates the routes of your life towards your destination. Don’t let setbacks and flaws prevent you from going for your goals. Stop trying to compare yourself to others because you live your own life and there is no one like you. If you try to seek validation on the outside, you won’t find it because everyone has different aspects of how to live life. You know who you are within your heart and that is the guidance that you should follow. Keep improving yourself each day, focusing on your goals. Remember that the world and filled with different people and that you are a unique person. Don’t be anyone else except you. No one can tell you what image you will paint on the canvas of society. So work on building your inner candle because the beauty you see in others is a reflection of yourself. You aren’t like other people and you don’t need to be someone else or be jealous of others. The whole world is full of people trying to be like other people that people lose the valuable person they are. If society had everyone have the same talents, it wouldn’t grow and change. As long as you are alive, you can grow and change. Take each day as a chance to improve yourself. Write down what you want to accomplish today and the steps you think you can do today and keep doing it. Build yourself up and remember to shine your brightest because one day that light will fade and life will flash before your eyes. So take the time to appreciate who you are.
Sending positive inspiration your way to help brighten your darkest days. Remember that you are a candle and keep shining your light because you have a powerful might and life may not be easy it seems but you are strong enough to achieve your dreams. Sending luck and blessings your way to help you on your path and remember to relax and laugh.