I agree with Anita’s reply above…

I’m now one year on, still drinking, still obsessing and still holding onto the short straws he gives.

Nooooo don’t do that!  It’s hard to let go, but respect yourself. Give yourself a big pat on the back for getting out of there. And more pats for keeping it up and trying hard to build yourself a new life.

Keep on with those good steps, you are getting somewhere.

There is only one way to get out of a relationship with a narcissist, and that is to go no contact. Don’t accept short straws any longer. You are worth more than that. He doesn’t deserve your attention, but that’s what a narcissist does… keeps you hoping that one day he’ll change, one day he’ll need you, and so on and so on. Don’t play his childish games. He doesn’t see you as a person, you mean nothing to him, unless he can use you in some way to bolster up his underdeveloped sense of self.

best wishes,

Jay x

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