I’m glad I peeked into this post. I am going through something similar right now. I have been with my boyfriend for four years and we’ve been living together for the past year. It’s been a rough time of late. My ongoing concern is similar to yours, that my needs are not being met and I see little attempt to try and meet them. It’s a bit hurtful and makes me feel like I am not worth it and having my time wasted. My boyfriend doesn’t seem to care, instead pinning things back on me (an example is he doesn’t take me out anymore. I initiate dates but I’m tired of it and I want more effort on his part. He just invites me to his activities, like table tennis or going to the gym; this isn’t a date in my opinion but his response is that I need to change). We rarely have sex anymore.

In reading the responses, I agree with “Inky”. I have been contemplating bringing up having my boyfriend move out (he lives in my condo) because this is when the majority of our issues started. Maybe, just maybe, not seeing each other every day would bring back some romance. Having said that, there are no guarantees. And honestly, in my situation, I am looking for someone I can spend my life with and that includes living together and supporting each other in this way. For me this was a big test that failed and perhaps further contemplation on the future of the relationship is merited.

In a relationship, compromise is a given (on both ends). Don’t deny meeting your needs. They are just as important and valid as his.

I look forward to reading further advice on the topic.