Hello again, Anita, it’s good to speak to you once more! 🙂

It’s a very long and complicated story, Anita. Is it two years ago? Goodness, how time flies.

My father died in October last year at 89 years old. I miss him.

After looking after both of my parents as the primary carer for so long, and going over to make sure they were ok, my dad started getting really poorly. My sister moved in temporarily to look after them as it was getting dangerous to leave them on their own even just for the night. I was worn out with trying to look after them myself… I have health and mobility issues.. it seemed a good temporary solution at the time.

Shortly afterwards, my sister announced that she was giving up her job and moving in permanently with my parents and told them she would need money from them to look after them, as she no longer had an income, which is fair enough. We had previously both applied for LPAs (Lasting Power of Attorney) for Health & Welfare and Financial control for both parents in both our names. So my sister began taking money from their savings to look after them.

She then announced that in return for looking after them, she would eventually be entitled to own their house, and would continue to live there after they had both passed away.

Then my father died. My mother’s dementia got worse for a while, but she seems to be improving a little now. They were married for 62 years, so it was a big shock for her, and she’s not so far gone with the dementia that she doesn’t understand things.

Since my sister gained access to my mother’s savings, Mum’s savings are being depleted quite rapidly. She has just engaged builders to enlarge the kitchen, and other home improvements, and is using my mother’s savings to do these things.

I am more than worried that my sister’s motives are questionable, but I don’t know what to do about it. If I say anything at all, I just get a tantrum and end up giving in to her – and you have never seen tantrums like my sister has! If she isn’t happy, then no-one else is allowed to be either, and that includes her husband (now also moved into the family home) and me.

There’s a lot more to this story, this is just a brief outline.

Thank you for listening. x

Jay