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Dear Gautam,
You can never ask a person for more than they are actually willing to give. So you can keep giving, keep doing, keep liking, but the other person will never do what you hope for them to do because they don’t have to. The fact that you keep giving is entirely your choice, they did not ask for it, until you made it clear that they can ask for things. But remember, you gave them the signal that it was okay to ask for your help, you gave them the okay. But they will never see it as anything other than things friends do for each other until you’ve made it clear that you hope for more than a platonic relationship between you two.
You can keep doing, but if you only expect something in return without even trying to voice it out, then all you’ll ever do is assisting the other person like so. You’ve never once asked for something in return nor have you ever voiced out your desire for romance. So the other person will assume everything was a friends’ thing because no conversations were brought up that you wanted more, that you actually wanted to date each other romantically.
So can you blame the other person? Nope, you cannot. You’ve created the foundations of your relationship in that you gave, but did not even try to voiced out your needs nor desire. That other person is not a mind reader, you have to tell people what you want or else they can only assume that everything is okay as it is.