Hi Sarah,

That makes perfect sense to me.

I read an article years ago that really resonated with me. It was about how, in different stages of your life, you need different kind of friendships. Which is why when you have little children of your own, you tend to have friendships with other people who have little children, and so on. I think you are absolutely right in your assumption that, in order to keep moving forwards, you might need to lose a few people along the way. Wish them well but move on. Yes, not severing the friendship altogether but asking a lot less of yourself, especially with those demanding too much. A ‘keep in touch, and it’s always good to hear from you’ kind of friendship, but not one that means you have to drop everything you are doing in your own life in order to cater to someone else as you have been doing.

I am so glad that you beat your depression and unhappiness. That is such a precious thing. And a great achievement. You are right to not jeopardise the place that you have arrived at and where you are now.

We should all try to put more love and light into the lives of those who surround us, but not at the expense of our own love and light, as that light would soon go out with the weight of the responsibilities we would be taking on. A flame needs air to keep alight. You shut off the air, the flame goes out.

Love and light,

Jay.