A Note about “two little shits”-

There are two children in this story, a boy who is seven and a girl who is nine. The OP of this thread, John, referred to the two children as “little shits”. He referred to the nine year old girl as a “little B&*S%”.

These two children’s father is not part of their lives at all. They are living with their emotionally troubled mother who is at times suicidal, has a drinking problem and is financially irresponsible (from what the OP shared), and with her boyfriend of one year, John, whose major concern has been all along his loving feelings for a girlfriend he had before he met the mother of these two children.

This is some of what John wrote about his current live-in girlfriend’s son: “her son has serious issues… he just flips out over something that is nothing… kicking and screaming at the top of his lungs over nothing… Her son lost his shit in a bad way. Lots of anger… I swear he has some kind of bi-polarism… her son flipped out my girlfriend’s mom told her that she will not watch her son again… That’s pretty bad if his grandparent is done watching him. He is just out of control… her son acted up.. he got very upset and violent. A few times… her kids always being little shits”.

This is some of what he wrote about her daughter: “her daughter.. She is selfish and acts like a little queen snob…her daughter is a drama queen. Either throwing a fuss or crying…her daughter was being a little B&*$%”.

John sees himself as a nice guy who is concerned about the welfare of these kids and their mother (“Why am I such a ‘nice guy’? The thought of hurting her and her kids is killing me”)-

-But her kids are already hurt. Their father failed them, their mother failed them (and is not engaged in any process of helping herself and learning to become an adequate mother), their grandparents are not helpful and the man their mother moved in with (after a few months of dating) has not helped either with their emotional well being.

These children are in trouble and are being prepared to live a life of suffering and dysfunction. Maybe social services should be contacted, maybe there is a capable couple who is able and willing to help these two children, give them a home that is safe, predictable and loving, as well as seeing to it that they get the professional help they need.

Maybe John should contact social services, if he is that “nice guy”, that is.

anita